I've been thinking a lot about first date etiquette recently & specifically the idea that woman shouldn't sleep with men on the first date. It's spoken about so seriously by some women, like it would be the absolute worst thing you could possibly do. It bothers me. It's sexist. Its ridiculous. Worst of all, we bring it on ourselves by continuing to warn our girlfriends that sex on the first date is a relationship curse. To show you how asinine it is, think about this: You nev ... er hear guys telling one another, "Man don't bang her straight away! She wont be interested any more! She'll think your easy! That you dont value yourself! Whatever you do, hold off! "..Stupid right? Yes. So why is it any different when someone with breasts is saying it? It's this whole idea that men are always gunning to get laid & as women, it's our responsibility to make sure they don't get what they want...so that when they finally get it, they'll be grateful that they'll marry us..or something. WHAT?!?! I actually think this whole "dont sleep with him on the first date" nonsense really stems from fear. A fear that once you "give it up", he wont be interested in you any more. When you break it down, this is essentially saying, "All I have to offer is a sexual experience, nothing more, nothing less, & if I dont make him wait he wont value it & he will leave." That you are not interesting or smart or clever or hilarious-you're a walking blow-up doll. Come on Lady's!!! Do you really think that the only value you bring to a relationship is your magical vagina ambrosia? Really? If you do actually, really & truly believe that, it could explain why you keep attracting men who treat you as if thats all that matters. But Damn! Lets get real! That is not all you have to offer. We, as women need to stop behaving as if the exterior is all that we have. Sure, being a women is wonderful-we get dressed up, wear lipstick, etc. etc but that is not all there is! You know this already, I know you know this. So why do we keep acting as if we dont? We are taught as women that our sexual power is the most important thing we have. That we have to lord it over men to keep them in line or in check, or to get them to do what we want. While a bit of mild flirtation has its benefits & makes everyone happy, using your vagina as a method of keeping a man interested is kind of disingenuous. Call me an idealist, but what happened to honesty?? Compound all this with this constantly-perpetuated pretense that all any man is really interested in is getting into your knickers, which is NOT TRUE. Yes there are some men who just want to screw, nut & bolt (ahem). They have their own issues & are best avoided unless you like your sex life with a side serving of drama. But there are even more men who would actually really like to kick it with you, kiss, laugh, eat some food & go to sleep holding you. Seriously. They are all over the place!!!! first communion flower girl collections